Lead with love, an affirmation I remind myself of daily. In leading with love, I have thought a lot about love, where I see it, where I feel it and what it means.
The strongest form of love I have witnessed is with my grandparents, their spouses, children and grandchildren. I recently saw true love displayed when witnessing a friend supporting her husband during his time of illness and death. I could see and feel the love they had for one another as she held his hand, told him stories, and smiled. The love they had been pure. The love they had been real. The love they had seemed endless. How could it possibly be ending?
A few days later as I was falling asleep I started to cry. I cried for their love, great love, the love no longer existing in the physical realm. I cried for how she must feel without him. I was sad to see her go on without him. Then I started to cry for the love in my life, the love I have for my husband, the love he has for me. I cried from a place of happiness and gratitude. Then I became sad. I was sad thinking us too will die inevitable deaths one day and we will no longer physically be together.
The next day, I came across this video, “Existential Bummer” by Jason Silva. Jason’s video questions love in a way I had never thought of before. His thoughts are if we eventually die, and what we love no longer exists, then do you love harder while you are on earth and not let go, to make the most of that love? Or do you disassociate yourself from love because it will all end eventually? Which is it? To me, the later comes from a place of fear. Where the former comes from a place of faith.
I am choosing to love in the moment that exists, to hold on with as much as I have, for as long as I can, to give it all that I have got. I believe if you love with faith rather than fear, that love continues on. That is true love. That is real love. That is love that can not be taken away and does not end. That is forever love. That is love felt and exists for eternity. That is love that will live on. And this is the strongest form of love I have witnessed.