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Review: “The Game Of Life And How To Play It”

The Game of Life And How To Play It“, is a short, but mighty powerful read. Published in 1925, the author, Florence Scovel-Shinn, was an early 20th-century metaphysics teacher and prosperity writer. Scovel-Shinn reminds readers they each have a path they are to follow, and must do so with clarity, to prevent getting in their own way. Her teachings abide by seven laws, which include:

The Law of Prosperity – (supporting others as well as yourself in success/abundance).

The Power of The Word / Law of the Word – (words are strong, and what you say or hear will influence your path).

The Law of Nonresistance – (what you resist persists).

The Law of Karma – (do good for/ be kind to others and it will come back to you or those that you love).

The Law of Forgiveness – (let go of resentments, forgive and forget).

Casting The Burden / Law of Surrender – (let go of controlling your path, surrender to a higher power and believe it will be worked out).

The Law of Love – (lead with love, however, you must follow the other laws in order to receive true unconditional love).

For me, understanding these laws through Scovel-Shinn’s perspective was valuable in my recent realization of “letting things go“. I now feel confident in following the path created specifically for me. In fact, in the few short weeks since reading this book I have witnessed how these laws play out, and feel free from my control. In the past, I tried to control my path, and talked myself out of perusing dreams while talking myself into things that had no grounds. I allowed negative thoughts to take control and get in my way. This excerpt from the book helped me expel those feelings and thoughts “I now smash and demolish (by my spoken word) every untrue record in my subconscious mind. They shall return to the dust-heap of their native nothingness, for they came from my own vain imaginings. I now make my perfect records through the Christ within– The records of Health, Wealth, Love and perfect self-expression“.

Fear was another form of control I had over myself, and it was in this sentence I changed my perspective; “Fear is misdirected energy and must be redirected or transmuted into Faith.” It is easy to become fearful, especially for worriers. I have reflected on people in my life who have no fear, and what they have, different than worriers  is a whole lot of faith. Now, when I find myself fearful, I turn that fear into faith and know it will work out as it is meant to.

The book has a series of stories of how the laws impact lives, which teach the power of strong belief and affirmation. People who followed the laws changed their lives for the better. They were taught affirmations and used them as a tool for success. Towards the end of the book, Scovel-Shinn lists many powerful affirmations. This part happened to be my favorite and has taught me how to use affirmations daily. A few of my favorites include:

“Every plan my Father in heaven has not planned shall be dissolved and dissipated, and the Divine Idea now comes to pass.”

“My eyes are God’s eyes, I see with the eyes of spirit. I see clearly the open way; there are no obstacles on my pathway. I see clearly the perfect plan.”

“I have perfect work, in a perfect way; I give perfect service; for perfect pay.”

“The Game of Life” is a quick, easy and life-changing book. It changes perspective and allows for freedom from oneself. Each day I reflect back on the laws and how I am using them in my daily life. Each day I share some of this wisdom with others. And now, I share it with you.

 

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Thursday Thoughts: thanksgiving.

Happy Thanksgiving! I love Christmas, but as I have gotten older I have come to appreciate and adore Thanksgiving just as much. This year I have grown a lot and have used many different tools and practices to do so. The most impactful has been to make a habit of checking in daily (often multiple times per day) and practicing gratitude. Today as a nation we celebrate giving thanks, and this post will strictly be a list of 101 things I am grateful for. This is a personal list of what I give thanks for today and every day. Enjoy your turkey & see ya next week!

 

Faith:

1. God & his bringing me to existence, and continuous love.

2. God’s plan for me, my faith in riding it out, and my ability to see his signs proving I am on the right path.

3. Knowledge of religion but the choice to believe what I want, and acceptance of others who believe what they believe.

4. A faith-based community of which inspires me.

5. Guardian Angels who keep me safe.

 

Love:

6. My husband. That I found him so young, and we have already had 13 years together.

7. His continued support & love.

8. The fact we make everything work out as long as we work together.

9. The timing of our relationship and events. Everything happens when it’s just right.

10. The way we have grown individually and as a couple.

11. The way he loves and cares for our dog, & what an amazing Dad (to humans) he will be.

12. His work ethic. How hard and passionately he works to support us.

13. Date nights

14. A kiss in the morning and a kiss at night.

15. Holding hands.

 

Family:

16. My parents and the love and spirit they have for me. How they brought me up.

17. My brother who cares and loves everyone around him so deeply.

18. My sister who has no judgment and accepts me no matter our differences.

19. My parent-in-laws. I am fortunate to have 4 to love and love me back!

20. My sibling in-laws. Each treating me like one of their own from the very beginning.

21. My deceased grandparents. How they loved & what they taught me.

22. My grandparent- in-laws. That I still have them to nurture me as one of their own.

23. My extended family on both sides. There are so many of us to celebrate!

24. My Paisley Girl, who brings me, love, laughter and smiles every single day.

25. My God Children & the fact their parents picked me.

26. Talking to my mom almost every day.

 

Friends:

27. The best group of friends on the planet. Our Village. Our Tribe. Forever Friends.

28. The beautiful, smart and creative women friends in my life.

29. The guys married to those women, who treat me like a sister.

30. Friendships that no matter the distance between us never fade, & grow stronger.

31. Friendships of which we may not talk often, but it’s as though nothing ever changes.

32. The laughter and memories made between friends.

33. Friendships that form from other friendships.

34. Feeling free to be 100% myself around my closest friends, with full acceptance.

35. Seeing prosperity, love and success existing in friend’s lives & watching it grow.

36. Being a part of the biggest moments of friend’s lives & having them be a part of mine.

37. My BFF moving to San Diego.

38. Friends generosity.

 

Health:

39. My health, my husband’s health, my family’s health, my friend’s health.

40. Having the discipline to get up each morning to exercise.

41. That I am able-bodied to participate in physical activities.

42. Having the strength to make sure my mental health is as healthy as my physical.

43. My love for all foods, especially healthy nutritious food.

44. My female health, and the opportunity as a female to birth life.

45. My ability to fall asleep quickly and most of the time get 8 hours of sleep!

46. My teeth & my braces from teenage years, I get many compliments now!

 

Career:

47. Finding my purpose and passion and pursuing that as a career.

48. A job that pays very well, and allows me flexibility and balance.

49. A boss who believes in me and is respectful.

50. Colleagues and those I learn from and am supported by on a daily basis.

51. Clients who give me an opportunity to make more money!

52. Continuously learning new things that inspire me.

53. Working from home.

54. Those who have impacted my career, whether I worked with them or not.

55. Those who come to me for career advice, I learn from you too!

 

Home:

56. Living in the land of the free. The most accepting and supportive country there is.

57. My home. A home that keeps us warm, and we’ve been able to make our own.

58. A neighborhood that is safe, and allows me to walk to almost anywhere.

59. Our neighbors who look out for us and are fun!

60. San Diego. Fair weather. Peaceful People. Seeing the ocean every day.

61. California. Can get nearly anywhere in a matter of a day. It’s beauty.

62. A fully stocked pantry and refrigerator.

63. Beautiful pictures and things in my home bringing me joy daily.

64. Living close to our family, but still allowing for our independence.

65. Our comfy bed, and my hubby and pup to help keep it warm.

66. My Christmas ornament collection to remind me of all the places we have traveled.

67. Running water and solid plumbing in our home.

 

Lifestyle:

68. Having the means to have traveled to many cities, nationally and internationally.

69. Dos Pueblos Ranch, where we got married and share many family and friend memories.

70. My car and other means of transportation.

71. Ability to go out to eat, drink and partake in many events and activities.

72. My gym and Pilates memberships along with the amazing trainers that keep me fit!

73. Affording things and treatments that make me feel pretty.

74. The means to be generous, whether it be making a donation or buying a gift.

75. Reliable friends and daycare to watch Paisley when we are away.

 

Education:

76. All the teachers I have had in my life through school, work, and personal settings.

77. My college degree, and that I studied something I loved even if it was not that practical & alma mater The University of Arizona!

78. The new knowledge I am learning through a personal development program.

79. The enormous amount of books, podcasts, blogs and more I learn from daily.

80. The choice I make to continue learning as much as possible as often as possible.

 

Technology:

81. The internet for obvious reasons.

82. My IPhone for a million reasons including its camera, entertainment & navigation.

83. My Kindle. Makes reading convenient.

84. Amazon Prime. NEXT DAY FREE SHIPPING. Boom!

85. Skype & Facetime. I can see my sister when I talk to her while she is abroad.

86. Uber.

87. Bluetooth in my car.

 

Entertainment :

88. Judd Apatow. His movies are the only ones I can watch over and over.

89. E! News, US Weekly, sometimes accurate celebrity media outlets are necessary

90. Showtime. Homeland, The Affair, Ray Donovan. Can’t get enough.

91. Bravo! I love me some Housewives and Andy Choen. Thanks for the entertainment.

92. The Movies. Going to the theater. Indulging in popcorn and a diet coke.

 

Miscellaneous:

93. Red Wine & Craft Cocktails.

94. Coffee & Tea. On occasion a cold brew or skinny vanilla latte.

95. Sushi, Pizza, Cheese and frozen yogurt (my vices).

96. My daily gratitude journal, for keeping me in check.

97. Good customer service.

98. Forgiveness.

99. Airport security. Police. Firefighters. Pilots. Everyone who works to keep us safe.

100. Mail. Specifically receiving holiday cards or a handwritten note.

 

Most of all:

101. Today.

 

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Tuesday Thoughts: eternal love.

Lead with love, an affirmation I remind myself of daily. In leading with love, I have thought a lot about love, where I see it, where I feel it and what it means.

The strongest form of love I have witnessed is with my grandparents, their spouses, children and grandchildren. I recently saw true love displayed when witnessing a friend supporting her husband during his time of illness and death. I could see and feel the love they had for one another as she held his hand, told him stories, and smiled. The love they had been pure. The love they had been real. The love they had seemed endless. How could it possibly be ending?

A few days later as I was falling asleep I started to cry. I cried for their love, great love, the love no longer existing in the physical realm. I cried for how she must feel without him. I was sad to see her go on without him. Then I started to cry for the love in my life, the love I have for my husband, the love he has for me. I cried from a place of happiness and gratitude. Then I became sad. I was sad thinking us too will die inevitable deaths one day and we will no longer physically be together.

The next day, I came across this video, “Existential Bummer” by Jason Silva. Jason’s video questions love in a way I had never thought of before. His thoughts are if we eventually die, and what we love  no longer exists, then do you love harder while you are on earth and not let go, to make the most of that love? Or do you disassociate yourself from love because it will all end eventually? Which is it? To me, the later comes from a place of fear. Where the former comes from a place of faith.

I am choosing to love in the moment that exists, to hold on with as much as I have, for as long as I can, to give it all that I have got. I believe if you love with faith rather than fear, that love continues on. That is true love. That is real love. That is love that can not be taken away and does not end. That is forever love. That is love felt and exists for eternity. That is love that will live on. And this is the strongest form of love I have witnessed.

 

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Friday: this week’s favorites

I’d like to acknowledge the great loss and horrific tragedy our world, and France experienced one week ago. When I heard the news I was out wine tasting with girlfriends. It did not really hit me, nor did I take the time to get more information until the next morning. I feel selfish for not taking some time to understand and instead going about my day as if nothing had happened. I realize how easy it is to disregard something when it does not hit on your home land, and this opened my mind to pay more attention to foreign affairs. The first thing I did Saturday morning was text my sister who lives in Nantes, France. I sent my condolences to her for what happened to her new home and her boyfriends native. When she responded she told me how strong Islamic culture was in France, and how racism is quickly growing, and she is fearful the attacks will not stop. It sickens me that still, in today’s age we live in a world with such extreme terror and hate. How is it possible, after all, we have done to get as far as we have? And even worse, people that bring hate and violence into the world are able to establish a following and expose their beliefs through the media and social media. I actually contemplated not even writing this bit, because it was giving them more attention. If we want things to change as a whole we need to lead with love. We need to lead with kindness. We need to lead with an understanding of others. We need to lead with acceptance of cultures. And when I say understanding, and acceptance, I do not mean to accept some people are filled with hate and violence, but to understand and accept that we are all different, we are all unique and that is okay. If we were able to better understand and accept each other there would not be such rage. To let racism live in our world today is not acceptable. To let violence live in our world today should not be tolerated. The most powerful thing we can do is to love. Given that Paris is the city of lights, I’d like to leave you with this quote…

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.

Lead with love this weekend and forever. My prayers for our world, our people, and for terrorists like ISIS to find the love and let go of the hate.

The key to success. Be Nice. Be Positive. Be Caring. Be Supportive. Be Inclusive. (Susie Moore)

I kept this in mind when I bought a bag of groceries for the homeless this week. (marc & angel HACK LIFE)

You are just as worthy in the beginning than the end. (Thoughts By Natalie)

Love this advice, especially Brene Brown’s on acceptance. (Cup of Jo)

A deaf couple reflect on 47 years of marriage. Beautiful. (Aeon)

 

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Review: “Anything You Want”

Ever heard of Derek Sivers? I had not until I read his book “Anything You Want: 40 Lessons for A New Kind of Entrepreneur”. In the late 90’s Derek was a struggling musician, mostly struggling with the problem of finding an online distributor for his CD’s. It was the rise of the .com era (before Itunes) and no one was distributing music online (especially for small artists). When he could not get the help he was looking for, or could find it in existence, he decided he would solve the problem himself and his company “CD Baby” was born. Before his company was even a company, he started to grow as he gained popularity helping his other music artist friends distribute online, practically for free and out of the kindness of his own being. He had no specific plan but to treat customers well, do what felt right, and saw the big picture without getting caught up in minute details. He spent $1k in developing his business and sold it ten years later for $22 million! Then he gave most of it away (this was not in the book, but a really cool fact!).

What I loved about Derek’s story is he ran his business as a passion project. He was never focused on the money or the growth, but on what he stood for as a person, and what he believed the company should stand for. He had exceptional customer service, and went the extra mile to make up for bad service when and if it occurred.

Like any business, entrepreneur, or human for that matter, Derek made mistakes and had times of struggle. In times of difficulty, he found ways to be resourceful and overcome them. Like most things, this was the cycle of his business, but he realized it was only natural to have issues arise and overcome in order to build success.  He accepted them, he did not hide them and he built on them. If there was a problem he did not dwell and instead focused on improving what was not working.

As you can tell money is not a huge motivator for Derek. He believed a business should not be about making money, it should be about creating a purpose for yourself and helping others. He did see the advantages of money but believed he did not need a dog and pony show of investors and advisors he would have to pay or gave business to in order to create success. It is possible to create success organically.

He believed in the people around him. He found the best people to do the work he needed, but also those he could trust. These people ended up running his business before he sold it. He uplifted them, gave them what they asked for, and could tell when he was taken advantage of and would not stand for it. He also understood he was never going to please everyone and those he could not please he did not take personally and moved on.

And his best piece of advice, is the real point of doing anything is to be happy, so do only what makes you happy. Don’t sit around waiting to find out what that is, search for it, engage in it and believe in yourself and your capabilities.

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